Posts Tagged ‘Aonghas’

Extraordinary farewell for an extraordinary boy

Sunday, November 15th, 2009

Yesterday we said goodbye to Aonghas in celebration rather than mourning. I don’t think it’s likely to be a day any of us will forget in a hurry.

We woke to heavy rain which started the previous evening just as his father Alex and I met to prepare the village hall we were using for his party. A good friend emailed first thing to say “Image of flow related to this day. Flow of water, flow of energy, flow of love. Flow.” I was hoping he’d be right in one respect since I still hadn’t got much idea of what I was going to say at the funeral, which we were doing ourselves, but was also watching the amount of water coming out of the sky. We live near the river Tweed and it was very possible that Drumelzier, the village where the party was to be, could be cut off from one end making it hard for people to get there, not to mention the possibility of the river ending up ten feet (or closer) from our front door which it’s done on four occasions in the last 5 years.


Sad news

Saturday, November 7th, 2009

We’re very sorry to have to tell everyone this, but our wonderful beautiful boy Aonghas is no longer with us. He went into hospital 2 days ago for a repeat of an operation he had in August that hadn’t worked properly, there were complications in the procedure, and despite everything everyone did, he never regained consciousness. He left us yesterday, just before 3pm.


We have no idea right now how we’re going to fill the Aonghas-shaped holes in our lives, and we miss him horribly, but at the same time there was an enormous beauty, perfection and even humour in his passing that’s already starting to eclipse the pain. He was a unique human being who touched so many people in ways that many are only now starting to realise. The world is poorer for his loss but infinitely richer for the number of hearts he opened.

We’ll be having a party for him when we get back to Benfeita with lots of good music and good cooking, his two passions in life. Details will be posted here as they become available, or you can follow progress on his Facebook page which we’re keeping going for him so people can share their photos and memories of him. (You will need to have your own Facebook account and request Aonghas to add you as a friend to see this.)

Bye bye Bangy. We love you so much.

In waiting

Wednesday, March 4th, 2009

A wait can be a bit of a weight at times if you let it. But we’re just going with the flow of things. Less stress all round that way. Right now we’re in Scotland (with snow on the ground) and here until the end of May at least, so our plans have had to be put back a bit.